Category: Domestic-ness

Jaylen and I spent all of Sunday here at home. I was bored out of my mind. Eenan went to town with Mary so it was just Jaylen and I. I was supposed to go to Target with Mary that day, but didn’t so I still haven’t returned/exchanged my stuff. I loathe not having a license (or a car of my own) .

Mario came home after work and picked us up (thank GOD) and we went to Jorge’s. We picked up some snacks at the huge Coca-Cola-shaped Drive-Thru and prayed for the best since we had BOTH the kids. Usually, Eenan spends the night at Mary’s and only Jaylen goes with us. It wasn’t as horrible as I thought it was going to be. I spent some time with Jorgie and Justin inside while they ate some bananas while Maggie was out. The rest of the night Maggie and I just watched Mario, Jorge and Hiram install the garage door opener. It actually worked !

Thursday’s Hiram’s birthday so we’re going to have a little party for him. I’m baking a chocolate cake, Mario’s grilling some fish and Jorge is making the fajitas. That’s another thing…we need to go grocery/house stuff shopping and SOON. I hope Mario gets his day off on Thursday after all.

We rented movies and bought ice cream that night. I fell asleep half-way through the movie though LOL.

Yesterday I cleaned the house from top to bottom. Well, not all the way to the bottom since I didn’t get a chance to mop, heh. I barely finished up when Rejeana got here. It’s the first time I’ve seen her since sometime in November before she left to England. She & Geoff got me the set of McDonald’s Happy Meal Care Bears from the UK…aww! They’re too darn adorable. She also brought some English tea with her so I boiled some water and we sat down and had tea and toast . The tea was so good. Never had tea like that before and never have I added milk to my tea! It was awesome. We spent the rest of the night online and just talking and catching up. I made dinner and we ate and then Mario got home. We watched the other movie we got, Maria Full of Grace, which I’ve wanted to watch since it came out. I thought it was a good movie. The very end was a bit “blah”–could have had a more detailed ending–but Mario and I tend to think the endings suck of most movies LOL. It’s something I noticed recently . Rejeana left before the movie finished so I’ll have to fill her in. It was nice seeing her .

Tommy and Yadira’d brought back Jaylen’s toddler bed since Angela wasn’t using it anymore so I set it up Sunday night and he slept there half the night. At around 3am he jumped back into bed with me. Last night though, I moved the bed right next to mine and held his hand till he fell asleep and he slept there all night long! My back actually didn’t hurt this morning since he didn’t suction himself to my back. It hurt because Mario took up all the space . I had forgotten how much space that boy requires. We hadn’t slept in the same bed because of Jaylen in months. I must prepare myself for the elbowing and waking me up from a peaceful sleep for the midnight rendevous .

Gonna join the hubby on the couch and take a shower and try not to stay up too late. I woke him up 30 mintues late this morning because I went back to sleep after I turned the alarm off.

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I went days without updating again…and that sucks because the darn entry gets super long. But, who cares .

Mario didn’t get out early that last Thursday, which sucked. He hasn’t had a day off. Friday was really laid back too and I spent a lot of time on MySpace. I found two of Mario’s cousins on there and John even made an account. I also saw someone whom I was really surprised to see. Let’s just say it brought back bad memories LOL. Nobody else I actually know offline is on there…where the heck is everyone?!

I picked Eenan up from school that day. I *hate* their new pick-up system. Before I’d leave the house at 3, drive into the parking area (which is too damn small) and park and wait till he got out. Now, I have to leave at 2:30-2:45 (he doesn’t get out till 3:25) and WAIT IN LINE IN THE STREET till they decide to open the gate. Yeah, the street. So we only leave one lane open for the people driving. If for some reason I’m ever late to pick him up, I’m going to be waiting in this ridiculously huge line. Gargh, I just despise that school’s brilliant ideas. At least the new principal didn’t send out a memo like the one from last year did notifying the parents about how the school’s not “responsible” for the kids before and after a certain time.

Speaking of school, and because of another event that happened this weekend, I realized I need to learn to speak more Spanish. I’ve mentioned it a thousand times before: I can understand it perfectly, read it, write it (somewhat) but when it comes time to having a conversation with someone, I fumble all over my words and end up forgetting what I want to say. It’s embarrassing. I’m just about the only parent at that school that doesn’t talk to all the other moms. They all speak Spanish (most ONLY Spanish) — even the moms who are close to my age. That’s another thing, most of the moms are much older than I am. They all gather together and talk to eachother and I just feel uncomfortable standing there so most of the time I wait till Eenan gets out to get out of the car. It’s not super important that I don’t talk to anyone there–I don’t think I’d have much in common with anyone–but I just really need to speak Spanish and that just sort of confirms it.

Anyway, when Mary got home from work we went to watch Pooh’s Heffalump Movie. Aww, it was SO cute! I even cried a little. Lumpy was the sweetest. I just didn’t really like how they didn’t pay much attention to Eeyore . The kids loved it…they actually sat through the whole thing.

We ate at Burger King afterwards, where I had a shrimp salad. I take forever to eat, so while I ate Mary took the boys to play in the play park. After a minute, I start hearing screams and started to worry. When I was done I go over there and sure enough, it was my children screaming . Jaylen had gone up the tubes with Eenan, but he went a different way and Eenan didn’t notice. So when Eenan came back down, he realized Jaylen wasn’t there and started screaming. Then Jaylen panicked and he screamed. Eenan had already gone up twice and couldn’t bring him back down. A little boy Eenan became friends with ended up going up there and leading Jaylen back down. When Eenan saw Jaylen he grabbed him and hugged him. He kept telling me, “I don’t know what I’d do without my Jaylen. I’d be so lonely!” .

When we got home John was already here (I’d left him the keys). We watched videos on big-boys.com till Mario got home and then we got ready to go to Jorge and Maggie’s. Mario brought pizza so we ate, and then went to Mary’s since Andy had come over. Mario and Mary hadn’t met him yet. Everyone thinks he’s really nice–so far, I think they all like him the best (out of the boyfriends Noey’s had).

The boys wanted to stay, so we left. I was so surprised Jaylen actually stayed without me LOL. We drank margaritas and just had a good time at Jorge’s.

Mario left to work the next day and John watched the boys while I went with Mary, Sonia and Yazmin to watch Constantine. I liked it–I like those types of movies. Could have done without some of Keanu’s stares into the camera and the ending could have been faster, but other than that, it was good .

We went to eat at Jesse’s Mexican Food after that and then to Target where I got a Bedtime Bear Cub. They had them on sale for $9.98!! I really wanted Love-a-lot or Cheer Bear but they only had Bedtimes, Funshines and Wish Bears. I want them all now–they’re so adorable !

I got those Hello Kitty stickers on Sunday at Party Universe. I’m already planning a layout around one of them buahaha.

We came home and the house was a disaster. I don’t know *what* John does when he’s “watching” the boys…because it doesn’t really seem like he watches them. The house is in shambles everytime I get back. So that’s what I did for the next hour–cleaned and made the boys help me clean. Mario got home from work, ate and then told me to get ready since Chris was having an engagement party. Chris and their friend Jorge seemed really happy that I went with Mario. They sent me off with the other wives/girlfriends who were all inside. It was one of the most awkward moments of my life. Most of the women there spoke only Spanish (story of my life!) so of course I sat there for most of the 3 hours just wishing the ground would swallow me. I only spoke twice the whole time I was there. Everyone was quiet the first two hours though. If I spoke more Spanish (or they spoke more English) I could have gotten along with them much better. I was just glad it was over when it was but felt a tad bit guilty when Chris and Jorge thanked me for coming and said they’d love it if I’d accompany Mario the next time there was a bar-be-cue or something . I’d love to go, as long as the women and men aren’t separated. It would be MUCH less uncomfortable.

The next day, I saw Mario off to work then went with Mary and the boys to Pet Smart, Party Universe (they have Ninja Turtle stuff for Jaylen’s party!), and then to the longest kiddie party I’ve ever been to in my life. The boys weren’t exactly “behaving”–hadn’t been all day–and the length of the party just made it worse. They had fun the first hour of the party though.

We left the party after two hours (and it still wasn’t over) and I was just so glad to be home. When Mario got home we dropped John off and Aunt Nora gave us some lamps and Mom had left me a bag of stuff. She gave me a Clinique make-up bag with all kinds of stuff . I didn’t get to see her though . She was still at work. We went to rent some movies (Wicker Park & Cellular) and bought Mean Girls for $7! It’s previously viewed, but hey, it works! Then we picked up McDonald’s and chilled out and watched movies. It was nice just being here with Mario.

And that was my weekend. Yesterday was spent cleaning and doing laundry–as is every Monday. Gonna feed Jaylen and myself before we have to go and spend that ghastly hour in line, in the car .

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In continuation to this morning’s post…the move went smoothly, thank God. I was smart this time and backed up every single thing (just downloaded everything on the server to my computer), saved all the CHMOD #’s for my CGI things (Megabook, Greymatter) and then just re-uploaded back to this server. I was worried for a bit since my old username wasn’t the same as the new one, and well, every single page uses relative paths since the site’s skinned, but I asked one of the TCH guys if he could help me out with changing my username (they only change it for you if they really have to) and he fixed it for me . It would have taken forever to change that teensy bit of code for the 200+ pages on this site. TCH’s already scored some referral points from me . So yay! I’m happy.

Yesterday morning Sonia picked the boys and I up (since I didn’t have a car) and took us to their dentist appointments. They did pretty good; better than I thought they would. Jaylen was the bravest one though, and walked proudly in front of us and was the first to jump on the chair. They put that new protective plastic-type stuff on his teeth to help prevent cavities. He did SO good. He only screamed twice: once because the light was in his eyes and the other time because he tasted the gel stuff. The first time he screamed Eenan freaked out and started crying in the corner. When it was Eenan’s turn, he was kind of scared and screamed everytime they’d spray water in his mouth and suction it out. But other than that, he did good too, and they put that protective stuff on the left side of his mouth. The first time he got it done he only gave them a chance to do it on the right side because he was freaking out.

They got a little baggy with a toy and pencils and toothbrushes, so they were happy . I got Eenan an excuse and we dropped him off. When Sonia dropped us off at home, I noticed I’d forgotten my keys. Great! So I had to climb in through a window. That’s always fun .

I spent the day cleaning. It smelled SO BAD in here because of all the pets. We hadn’t changed their sheddings in a week and a half or so. I hate cleaning the rats’ cage because they smell and nibble and darnit, they’re Mario’s pets! He’d never change my hamster’s, gerbil’s or rabbit’s sheddings . But I held my breath and cleaned their cages out. We went to Dollar General (one of the only “stores” in this city besides Family Dollar ) where I bought some Hawaiian Breeze plug-in things and other stuff we needed and got some notebooks, scissors and water colors for the boys since I promised them I’d get them something if they cooperated at the dentist. Now it smells so good :). I love Hawaiian Breeze!

OMG, I’m watching TV and they said in California it’s ok to own a “big cat” (i.e. a TIGER) if you have a permit. I WANT A TIGER!!!

Anyway, the house looks pretty decent now. I’ve still got the bedroom to go but ugh, I’m tired already. I wish these boys (husband included) would keep this place clean! I feel like a maid .

When I’m not cleaning/cooking or tending to the family or TRYING to surf the web I’m thinking about a year and a half from now. In approximately a year and a half Jaylen will be starting Pre-K, and I will have 4 hours to MYSELF. Wow, “myself”…what a concept. For the past 5 1/2 years I’ve had a child attatched to my hip. I can’t even fathom what it’ll be like to be here ALONE. And, I probably won’t want to be here alone which is why I’m trying to figure out what I want to do with my life. What I want to do for a living. I think about this constantly and still can’t decide what I want to study for. When I was younger I wanted to be a teacher, then a vet. I can’t do either because 1–I don’t think I have the patience to be in the same room with that many kids and 2–I don’t think I could stand a little animal dying in my arms at least once a day. Everyone tells me to do something with computers but I don’t even know what. I wanted to go into the medical field, but ugh. I don’t know. I think what causes me to just come to a hault everytime I decide I want to do “this or that” is thinking, “What if in 5 years I totally hate this job?”. I don’t want to hate my job :(. When I worked in retail, I hated going to work. It was fun the first couple of months — shoot, even after I turned that guy in for stealing and his little friends TRIED making my life a living hell, I liked my job. But, when they started keeping us till 12am, it got old and I didn’t like it. That’s why I want to go to school–to get a good job where I won’t be working from dawn till dusk. I hope I can decide soon. I don’t want to just go into something at the last minute and end up miserable .

Anyway, last week I paid off Mario’s Pell Grant. We had to pay back since he stopped going to school. Well, I got a call today from another woman from another collection agency saying we still hadn’t paid. I told her we did and gave her all the info and she said there wasn’t a record of us paying. I call the company we made the payment to and she says she doesn’t know why anyone else would be billing us. Then I call the college and they say that since I’m his spouse they couldn’t give me too much info but that yes, we would have to pay both companies. WONDERFUL. Mario’s not going to be too happy to hear that. Another $400 !

Thinking about all that gave me a headache. Gonna go mess around with my Control Panel again. I might bring back the chat room. Well, maybe not. I’m not too sure many people used it last time. And what would the point be? Okay, scratch that idea LOL. I should go, I’m rambling.

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