Category: Kiddos

Quentin’s & Chris’ Birthday

Sat., Dec. 6th – We woke up and got ready to pick up Mario’s pay check. We’re still getting used to him getting paid on Saturdays, but it’s even more weird having to wait for someone to call to let us know when someone will be at the office so we can pick up the check. Anyway, after cashing his check we went to Academy to buy Mario’s dad’s birthday present, which was a gun cleaning kit. Unfortunately, we found out later that he already had the exact kit…one that WE’D given him last year LOL. He exchanged it for bullets instead.

Mario asks me what I want for breakfast. I’d had some powdered donuts on the way to McAllen–which isn’t healthy at all, I know—so I wasn’t actually that hungry. He asked if I wanted Kumori—um, duh! You don’t even have to ask, just drive me there. We had some Cheese Kashi-age, which are really just mozzarella sticks in block form and I had my usual rolls, the Fiesta with no salmon skin and Mario had his Earth rolls. I couldn’t finish the rolls and John had just texted me how evil I was for going to Kumori without him so I took him our leftover rolls. When we got home, he and Jaylen dug in and finished them.

We got ready to go to Quentin’s (Sally & Pete’s son) 1st birthday. We all crammed into the Equinox, including Mom and Mary, and stopped at the Dollar General to get a cute card to put cash in. We got there late, about half an hour (which I hate) but we live all the way out here and it takes us forever to get to where we need to be.

The party was in their yard and the weather worked out perfectly. They had put up a tent with arts and crafts and had a moon jump, so my kids were very well entertained. Alaethia asked her Daddy-O to take her to the moon jump, but all the boys in there were really rough and hyper (typical 5-9-year-olds) and she got scared and wanted out. She spent the rest of the time in the crafts tent with Eenan or Jaylen or in her Daddy-O’s arms.

They had the kids break the piñata and Pete tried to give out brown bags so they could put their candy in but they weren’t paying attention. Once the piñata was broken though, they charged forward and almost stampeded him. He kind of just threw the bags in the air for them to catch and ran out of the way. Then he tells Sally, “I didn’t want to end up like the guy from Walmart!”

They took everyone in to Pete’s parents’ living room and showed us an amazing video Pete put together about Pete and Sally meeting, Sally’s pregnancy with Quentin, all the way till he turned 1 and included family interviews. By the end I was teary-eyed, it was such a beautiful video.

We went out and had cake after that, and since Mario wasn’t being such a good sport (he kept saying he wanted to leave—but when he’s at his friends’ houses and I go with him he expects me to sit there and not be bored, but anyway…) so we excused ourselves and said our goodbyes. It was so sad to leave, especially since Sally and I hadn’t really seen each other and spent time together. We watched Quentin shake his booty for a little while and then left.

I can’t remember what we did when we got home, probably chilled out, and then Mario left somewhere and called to remind me to get ready to go with him to Chris’ for his birthday bar-b-q and the De la Hoya/Paquiao fight. I’d completely forgotten, even though he’d been reminding me every day. I got ready in a hurry and we went over there. Mary stayed with the boys and Mom stayed with Alaethia since the temperature was dropping quickly outside. We had some awesome food and I sat with Yadira and later we went in with Nancy because it was too cold out for Matthew and Eddie Jr. We didn’t go back outside till the main fight started. Just about everyone was disappointed with De La Hoya’s performance but he had his time in the spotlight. That Paquiao guy was an animal! We didn’t get home till 2am or so and Alaethia was still awake. Grr. I didn’t end up going to sleep till around 3:30.

Sun. Dec. 7th – We woke up late and that’s really all I can remember from that day. (I’m updating this on Jan. 1st, so the details are a little blurry, heh.)

A Hectic Start to the Holidays

Sat., Nov. 29th – Mario was up and about, probably on his second cup of coffee by the time I fully regained consciousness. I had probably the most disgusting, watered-down eggs I’ve ever had and watched some TV. I tried reading but I’d keep nodding off and ended up asleep again every time. Mario got like, half his book (Angels and Demons by Dan Brown) read while we were there. I don’t even know if the poor thing had an actual breakfast, I was so out of it. He was such a good sport and excellent help the whole time. I don’t know how I would have done everything without him. It was hard enough getting to the restroom with the darn IV and having to unstrap and restrap myself to the monitors. The nurses kept getting annoyed because the baby’s heart rate monitor kept falling off because she was kicking so hard. She’ll be a soccer player, this one!

We’d been waiting for the doctor since 7am, which is when they told us he did his rounds. He never came. Finally around 1:30pm they let us know he called and said I could be released already. They concluded that the pains were due to the virus and not labor, so that’s good. I just had to stay hydrated. We left around 2pm. We didn’t do much the rest of the day but stay home and relax.

Sun., Nov. 30th – We started off our late morning by going to Walmart to cash Mario’s paycheck and we got a few things while we were there. Mom stayed with Jaylen and Alaethia and Mary stayed with Eenan. We went to Academy, Mario’s favorite store as of late and then made our way to Pharr to a gun show Jason had told Mario about. We get there and all is aglow with sparkly lights and runways being set up in all directions. It was a fashion show—the gun show was the day before. Mario was disappointed LOL. We forgot to go to Toys R Us so I didn’t get to buy Alaethia’s Christmas present. She’s the only kid we still weren’t done buying stuff for. Our next and last stop was Furniture Row, where we picked up the boys’ new chest of drawers and the dresser and mirror we got for the girls room. It was a little past lunch time by the time we were done with everything so we ordered from El Pato.

We got home and saw a new wall and window up around the North side of the outdoor laundry room that we share with my in-laws’. It’s in front of our apartment and behind my in-law’s if you can picture that. My Dad-in-law was beginning his new project: building an actual, quite large laundry room/sunroom for the kids to play with when it’s too cold but still want to be outside. My dad-in-law’s also keeping the actual deck we call the Kiddie Corral (he was thinking of doing away with it) so the kids will have an additional safe area to play in since the Party Porch is usually my carport. I always feel uneasy when they’re playing around the carports with cars; you just never know these days.

We cleaned up the bedrooms a bit more to get the dressers in. Jorge and Jose helped Mario bring them in and set up. While we were moving the boys’ old entertainment center to the corner of the room, we discovered tons of DS games, Gameboy Advance Games, board game pieces, and tons of crayons and map colors. I couldn’t believe it. The Animal Crossing game Jaylen was “missing” for at least a year and a half had been under there the whole time LOL.

I ended up not really liking the boys’ dresser after all. It looked so much nicer in store. The color was lighter than I thought it would be, but Mary had a point: I could eventually sand it down and paint it.

Alaethia and the new baby’s (she really needs a name, darnit!) is beautiful; even Mario said, “Ooh, this one I like. It’s vintage!” It was going to take a lot of work to girlie up the beige-walled, Transformer themed room, but I fully intend to have it done by the time Daughter 2.0 is born.

Mon., Dec. 1st – This was day 1 of 3 weeks before Christmas vacation. I just had to make it through those three weeks and then I was home free!

Mrs. V. was Star Testing the kids that week, which is a reading test to check where their comprehension level’s at. It was actually a really smooth day, busy in the morning as usual, but the rest of the day the kids kind of just skittered in and out.

I went in for a follow up appointment that day after school after I’d dropped the boys off at home. It took a freaking eternity in the office. I was halfway though my book and finished reading the rest of it while I was there. They finally called me into the vitals room around 5:45. I still weighed 138, which was fantastic and the baby was doing fine, growing as she was supposed to. She asked if I was over the virus and I said yes, I’d felt the pains Thursday and Friday and only felt sick that one day, Saturday, and then I was fine. She said that was great and let me go. It was 6:20 by the time I got home!

Tues., Dec. 2nd – The 7th graders were having Benchmarks and Mrs. V. was having another day of testing at the lab. The internet was actually faster with just one grade level not using the computers. I had little work to do and finished early. Mrs. V. had me cutting fabric for the new bulletin boards they’d put up (5, to be exact) and I was a bit nervous about the whole thing because it’s a 2-person job and there was no one there to help me and I didn’t want to end up using the wrong fabric or cutting the wrong length. Luckily, a substitute came in and he so kindly helped me make a template out of butcher paper and then we just cut the fabric out on the tables. The rest of the day went without a hitch.

Wed., Dec. 3rd – There were grade levels going on all day in the library. Since the kids weren’t Benchmarking anymore and everyone was using the internet, the system was slow all day. And since we had grade levels, I have to manually enter all the check-ins (apart from manually entering all the checkouts) because I didn’t want to annoy anyone with the incessant “beeping” of the scanner.

I actually had about 30 minutes of free time before lunch, but Mrs. V. noticed and we started working on the bulletin boards, heh. Rudy, Juan and a few other kids (the ones who usually roam the halls) asked if we needed help and I said sure! It was so helpful because I’m not allowed to stand on the step-stool. They did bring up a good point when we were adding the borders, “Why are you going through all the trouble when you know they’re just going to rip them up?” Sure enough, a few days later a 6th grade teacher brings me a piece of border and, shaking her head says, “You shouldn’t bother, Mrs. They don’t know how to appreciate.” We’re talking about this year’s 6th graders. Not all of them of course, but there’s about two handfuls that are just ruthless! Two little girls once confessed to me that they’d destroyed property at the old Nellie building when they were being housed there and then destroyed tables and sinks at their new building!

We celebrated my dad-in-law’s birthday that afternoon because he was giving himself a day off the next day (his actual birthday) to go deer hunting.

Thurs. Dec. 4th – I didn’t go to work that day. The boys were having Muffins for Mom at their school and I need to use up my sick days anyway because they won’t pay them to me or add them to maternity leave because I don’t *have* maternity leave.

Anyway, the whole day started off wrong. I was running late from the beginning. Got Alaethia ready in a hurry and had a hell of a time finding a parking space. I (stupidly) decided at the last minute not to bother unfolding Alaethia’s stroller and putting her in it. Instead I shook on my sweater, grabbed my purse and threw her on my hip and half-ran to get the kids out of class. I go to the office and they tell me to go ahead and get them out of class. I look for Jaylen, whose classroom happens to be the second to the last one in his very long hall, and of course he’s not there. He’s in P.E. and I have no idea where they are. I go back and ask them to please call them both to the office. The heat was too high in the building, my sweater was itchy and Alaethia was quickly becoming very heavy. Once the boys came to the office we went straight to the line for muffins and chocolate. It took forever. Alaethia kept screaming because she’d been woken up too early and the boys were driving her nuts because they wanted to carry her and show her off.

I sent the boys to get library books while we waited in line to focus their attention on something else other than Aly. I read to them in line and when we finally got our muffins, found a seat and read the rest of the books. They kept begging to take them home, so I said ‘we’ll see’. I had things to do and knew they wouldn’t let me get anything done if I had them with me.

When time was up I walked them to class and asked each of their teachers if I could take them home early, but if they had work they’d stay. They both said no, just reading, and they happily let them out of class. I didn’t feel bad taking them out; this was the first time the whole year that I’d be taking them out early without an appointment. Other parents take them out every single day. So I take them to the office to sign them out. The attendance clerk tells me I can’t take them out till 12, which I found weird because the legal time to remove them from school without being counted absent is 10. I say fine, even though the boys are protesting. Jaylen’s almost in tears as I’m walking them back, but I promise him I’ll be back at 12. I get him to calm down before I he walks back into his class. I apologize to the teacher for disrupting class again, and she comes up to me and asks what happened. I tell her everything, and she said it was bull, that the legal time was 10. Even though she told me it was fine to take him, I said it was alright, I’d come back at 12.

Took Eenan to his class (by now my feet are killing me because Alaethia’s heavy) and his teacher told me the exact same thing. She said to go ahead and take him; she would not mark him absent. So fine, I feel good about it and take Eenan with me again and go to Jaylen’s hall to pick him up again. His teacher also says she won’t mark him absent and I go to the office again to sign them out. The clerk says something really sarcastic like, “Sorry boys, now you can’t go on your field trip.” I roll my eyes and continue to sign them out. What a darn hassle!

I take them to get their hair cut and take them back home and have them wash up. I left them with Mom after that and did everything I needed to do. And no, they weren’t allowed to play video games like they’d planned—they had to read for half an hour and then had to find other more productive ways to entertain themselves.

It was Quentin’s 1st birthday and my dad-in-law’s birthday that day. We’d be attending Quentin’s birthday on Saturday and had already celebrated my dad-in-law’s the day before.

Fri. Dec. 5th – I was so glad it was Friday. I woke up feeling awesome thinking all the way to work I just have to make it through today and then it’s the weekend!

I got to work and had a few things to finish up from the previous day but a group of my kiddos came in to talk like they usually do in the mornings so I sat there talking to them. When the bell rang and most of them left two boys still lingered around. They didn’t want to go to class and one of them was supposedly in In School Suspension. When the other saw the assistant principal, he ran like the wind in the other direction. He and Mrs. V. run after him and as they’re bringing him back they’re asking him, “Why did you run, dude? You didn’t commit a crime!” Mrs. V. spoke to the assistant principal and she bargained with him. She said she’d keep them in the library if they helped out. Well, she was Star Testing still so guess who had the pleasure of staying with them? Me!

Usually they’re excellent with me, even though they’re considered “trouble makers”. But since other kids were circulating they were excited and mingling and basically not paying attention to me. It took about 3 hours to finally get them to do the tasks I gave them. I was so frustrated but kept a smile on my face or else they’d act up even more. It was already lunchtime and I still hadn’t finished checking in books and putting them on the shelves since I had to keep redirecting the boys. When I taught them to put the books in order they did an excellent job, I was impressed. They missed their lunchtime so I had no idea what I was supposed to do since I have to go to lunch at 11:30. So I took them with me to get their lunch and then I clocked out. On the way back I bumped into Mrs. V. and told her the situation. She took them with her. Mary in the front asked to speak to her and I overheard her telling Mrs. V. that I shouldn’t have to watch them. Mrs. V. asked when I got back from lunch if I’d said anything and I said no; nothing other than they wouldn’t pay attention to me till after 3 hours of being there. So she took them with her to the computer lab to “give me a break”. And what a break it was. I needed the silence since my head was pounding.

I picked up the boys after school and I came home just wanting to chill out. I was debating going to our Christmas social, even though it was at the Boca Paila at Rancho El Charco nearby and I’d always wanted to go there. I told Mario about it again for a second time when he’d called that he was on his way home and he said, “Remember the last social and how boring it was?” I sadly recalled it and decided that he was right, we’d probably be bored again. But I was so bored at home and he’d already made plans to go to Adan’s…to drink of course. I’d always wanted to go to Boca Paila so I almost got ready, but then I wasn’t sure if it would be indoors or out and it was cold. So needless to say, we didn’t go and I had a miserable boring time at home alone because even the kiddos were all at my in-laws’ house. Le sigh.

Thanksgiving ’08

I’d been waiting for this day since last Thanksgiving and couldn’t wait to eat some of Yadira’s green bean casserole, Mary’s turkey, stuffing and broccoli rice, and pumpkin pie with whipped cream! I prayed and hoped that Alaethia could keep her food down and that I (or Mario or anyone else for that matter) didn’t catch what she’d had. She hadn’t thrown up since the night before, so things were looking positive.

I’d invited Dad over for Thanksgiving and he actually came! He came about 3 hours early (I told him everything started at 12) because he supposedly had to be somewhere else by 11:30. I was glad he showed up, though. I didn’t feel we were close enough to invite him about 4 years ago, and the past three years when I did invite him he never came over. He probably didn’t think about it all those Thanksgivings he was away when we were little, but I did think about him now as an adult and felt almost guilty about him being home alone, eating alone. I remember I asked him once how his Thanksgiving was and he told me he and his friends got together and went to eat at the Salvation Army dinner. But anyway.

Mom was catering to Dad like she was a waitress. She even had me make a pot of coffee and then when the food was done, serve a plate for him. He left around 11:20. I was hoping he’d stay and eat with us and all, but I guess it would be too overwhelming since it was his first time meeting family other than my in-laws. Maybe next year.

Of course Mom wasn’t going to live it down. Everyone was teasing her, especially because they know Dad’s asked her to run away with him to his house at least 10 times. He’d actually half-joked again just that day that she should leave with him.

I started getting strong stomach cramps around 11am, before Dad left. I kept clutching at my belly and cringing and Yadira noticed. She said Ana, one of her co-workers, had gotten cramps and diarrhea after her baby had been sick with vomiting so what if I had the same thing? I waited around and even debated not eating anything at all in case I did get sick. That didn’t last long; I served myself a nice plate of food and ate to my heart’s content. And then I had dessert. The boys and Alaethia actually ate really well—who doesn’t during the Thanksgiving feast? I got to see Mario here and there; he was outside under the back porch with the men and we women were inside browsing through the Black Friday ads. Mary and I weren’t really planning to go to the sales at all, but Annie and Cat asked her to go so I volunteered myself to go along with her. I was a little sad Mario wouldn’t get to join in the madness since he’d only gotten Thursday off and not Friday. We worked out a game plan and gave everyone their assignments.

I had pains on and off throughout the day. Sometimes they felt like they were contractions, which freaked me out so I tried staying hydrated and immobile. I even drank a Sprite to settle my stomach; everyone who knows me knows that I only drink Sprite when I feel sick LOL. I felt a little better by dinner time, thankfully.

I had a quick dinner of leftover stuffing and broccoli rice and went to sleep early, around 9ish. Mario took care of Alaethia while I slept. He gave her Tylenol when she was feverish again. At one point he got bored and dressed her up warmly to go over to Adan’s. He didn’t get desperate and take her to me at all, like he usually does. I was really proud of him, and incredibly impressed that he didn’t wake me up ONCE for help!