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Holiday Weekend Recap

Okay, either I’m hallucinating because of all the sugar in my coffee or I actually heard them say on Today that J.K. Rowling named her 7th book “Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallow” or “Hollow”? Okay, maybe I was hearing things, because the dude (the one with the salt-n-pepper hair) said the name of the book then said, “But first…” and went on to something else and they haven’t mentioned it. Now they have Anita Baker singing. Grr.

Okay, just checked on Mugglenet.com and yes, it’s called, “Harry Potter and the Dealthy Hallows.” Now that I know this new bit of information, I feel just a tad bit more impatient. I want the book finished already! The Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix movie isn’t coming out till July 13, 2007–I don’t think I can stand waiting for the book even longer than that (like I have a choice, right?).

Anyway, I’m so sorry if I scared some of you since I haven’t updated in a few days. I’m fine, baby’s fine and she’s still happily using my insides as a kickboxing bag. I’ve just been super busy since it was the boys’ last week of school before vacation began. Thank you so much for your concern though, it means a lot to me :). I promise, if something big does happen, like going into labor, I will somehow get to a computer and inform you guys (I’d do it through my PDA but it hates me and WordPress).

So the Saturday after I last posted started off as a calm and relaxing one. We’d be attending Catherine’s birthday party in the afternoon, which, according to my mother, was at 3pm. I took my sweet time washing my towering pile of dishes, bathed the boys and let them run around in their underwear for a while and started sewing a little camera bag for my new camera. Mario keeps telling me, “Why won’t you just buy one?” I don’t like the big, black, bulky bags for my camera. I like carrying it in my purse and one of those bags just won’t fit with all the other crap I have in there.

Well, after about an hour of fighting with the satiny fabric and having a fit because I’d have to sew some of it by hand I ended up with this:

First Attempt

(Holy Moly, I just saw Salma Hayek and Ellen eat crickets! Eww!)

It did not fit my new camera! It did, however, fit my old one, but that kinda sucks anyway since I don’t use my old camera anymore! I ended up using it as a little make-up bag till I can get some fabric and a zipper to make a new one.

While I’m finishing up the little bag, Mary calls and tells me that they’re ready (her and Noelia); to let her know when I’m ready. I look at the clock and it’s 1pm. I ask, “What time are we leaving?”

“Mmm…around 1:15?”

I panic and yell, “What?! But it doesn’t start till 3! I was barely going to take a shower!”

It actually started at 2, but my mother was misinformed. I don’t know why I didn’t bother looking at my own darn invitation. I had half an hour to dress the boys, take a quick shower (which sucked since the water pressure was SUPER LOW and I was about an inch away from the wall of the shower stall), iron my and Mario’s clothes (for Noelia’s graduation later that night) and get myself dressed and hair done. I hate being in a rush, just hate it. I was so frustrated by the time we left, but I sucked it up and tried to be in a good mood for the kids. We picked up Sonia and arrived at the party.

We should have just left late; the food wasn’t served till 3 and I was starving. I hadn’t eaten since breakfast, which was around 9am. My sugar was dropping quickly and I was starting to shake badly. Thankfully, Elda had a 3 Musketeers in her purse which I quickly gobbled down. I felt better almost instantly and then finally, the food came. The kids inhaled their pizzas and punch and continued to play and enjoy themselves. They always have fun at that place but I wouldn’t have their parties there; it would probably cost me one of them to pay for it.

We left the party early since we’d have to drop Mom off at home with the boys. Noelia’s graduation was at 6:30pm, but we had to be there super early to get seats and before they closed the doors on us. Mario called while he was on his way home from work and asked me to pick up a plate for him from Long John Silvers since he got out early and didn’t have lunch. We get home and he’s frantically getting ready and starts stuffing his mouth with food simultaneously.

Noelia had left the party with Andy and went straight to UTPA. Big Mario, Mary, Mario and I left in our truck and Elda and Jose followed. We met Tommy, Yadira and the kids there and found Noelia, who instructed us on where to go.

I knew the ceremony was being held in the gym, but I had no idea we’d be seated in the bleachers. Normally, I’m not afraid of heights–not at all. But since I’m pregnant and my center of balance is way off at 8 months, I felt incredibly nervous going up the bleachers. My heart sank and I felt even worse when we got to the row we were going to sit in; we were high up and there was a 5, maybe 6 inch strip of wood we could walk on. I kind of froze at the beginning of the row and just stood there looking down. Is that what being afraid of heights feels like? I’d never felt that way before in my life. I must have looked like a loon, but I squatted down a little and held on to the bench while I slowly inched my way to Mario. He was looking at me like I was insane LOL.

I thought I’d lost my camera for a few (horrifying) minutes, but I’d left it in the car. We tried focusing the camera as best as we could but none of the settings would get a clear picture; we were really far. The ceremony was long and boring and then a man who sounded exactly like the one from the Visine commercials (…For red, dry eyes…) starts calling out names of honors students. I had absentmindedly started slumping on Mario’s shoulder and was falling asleep by the time they started giving out the “diplomas”. When they were done, we met Noelia outside and took pictures then everyone went their seperate ways. Big Mario, Mary, and I were hungry (Mario still wasn’t) so we stopped at Wendy’s. I had some chicken nuggets and a very cheesy baked potato with sour cream and chives. We had a good time. Our last stop was Wal-Mart and then home. I was exhausted.

We had plans to go to Target to start on my registry and then to our storage unit and get stuff out for the Garcia Family but we only got a chance to do the latter. Our unit was an eyesore of a mess, so we spent a good half hour organizing it. Jorge, Mario’s godfather, has a bunch of his stuff in there, too, so he put his stuff on one side and ours on another. Now we can actually walk in there.

I took the opportunity to get the boys’ baby clothes boxes out and check what I’ll be keeping as a memory of them, using for Alaethia (like white onesies and gowns), and giving to charity. I need to buy some Dreft soap, so I haven’t even tackled the boxes yet.

We dropped the stuff off at home, ate a quick lunch of sandwiches and chips and all of us piled in the truck again since we were going to the Motorcross Park and the Mud Pits with some of Mario’s friends. Out of all the guys that were going (like 4 or 5), only one went: Manny and his family. We chilled out with them for a few good hours. The kids were being absolute brats at first and I was quickly getting frustrated since Mario was having the time of his life on the ATVs, but after we gave the boys a talking-to they calmed down. I enjoyed the rest of the night after that. I was terrified of the boys being taken around in the ATVs, especially after it got dark but they followed instructions well and Manny and Mario took good care of them. We came home super late for a school night, so we fed the boys a quick meal of corn dogs, gave them 5-minute showers each and put them to bed. Mario was making some baked fish for us and it wasn’t done till around 10, but it was delicious.

Mario was off work the next day so after we picked Jaylen up from school Mario, Jaylen, John and I went to Target and I started on my Registry. (I really dislike that the only way you can view it is by using our first and last names :(!) It took all of 35 minutes to scan everything we liked/needed. We let Jaylen join in so he wouldn’t feel left out; I’d bring him the items and he’d scan them for me. I feel pretty good about the list. I left out the Graco Mikhala stroller set since Mario’s getting it, and we left out the bouncer since Yadira wants to give us hers. We also left out things she’ll be using much later on, like a playpen and highchair. I’m so excited. I thought it was so cute how Mario scanned some pink booties and a pink and yellow cap :).

I had every intention of starting on my baking that day, but it didn’t happen. John and I went to Dollar General to get some ingredients I needed (sugar, flour, crushed pineapple, etc.) and some nice baskets for the cookies. That would be the kids’ gifts to their teachers: a pretty basket full of homemade cookies.

For the first time ever, my little brother had to bail me out of something. I’d put gas in the truck earlier that day and left my debit card in my back pocket. It fell out of my pants when we’d gotten home and I didn’t notice. I had to change into decent clothes again when we went to the store, and totally forgot about the debit card. Well, I’m getting ready to pay for my stuff ($18-something) and realize I’m missing my card. I couldn’t even remember if I’d put it in my pocket at the gas station; I imagined everyone getting free gas with my card. John pays for my stuff with his debit card and gloats about it for the rest of the day. I told him I’d pay him back but he said since he owes me a Christmas present I can use the money to buy it for myself. How sweet LOL.

I was put in a worse mood when we got home after the ordeal at the store and Mary reminded us that there was a birthday party we’d made plans to attend. Great. No baking for me, which meant being in a hurry the next day, and possibly night like every other year.

The kids had fun at the party and we got to see Venessa’s newborn twins. They’re two months old, but since they were born a month early they’re actually 1 month old. They were so cute and tiny :).

I had a foot-in-mouth moment when Mario’s cousin Betty was asking me when I was due. Then I asked her when she was due (which was a few days before Christmas) and she half-laughs, “I had him last Saturday! He’s a week old.” I felt so embarrassed that I further shoved my foot in my mouth when I said, “I thought you looked smaller!” Lord, help me.

Mario already wasn’t happy that we were going to the party and became even more frustrated when Mary and I took half an hour at H-E-B after the party. We needed to get a few more ingredients they didn’t have at Dollar General and of course with people traffic and the lines it took forever. When we got home, Mario had a total fit and made a mess in the kitchen. He made me feel like crap right away and I told him so. We didn’t talk the rest of the night; I took a shower and went straight to bed without saying a word to him. I woke up in the middle of the night to find his arm around my belly. I took that as his way of feeling sorry and guilty, even though I probably wasn’t supposed to “know” he was holding me.

The greatest thing just happened! Itzel, my former instructor (Mrs. C-R), just called to say hello and wish us a Merry Christmas. Her little girl just turned 3 months old on the 19th! I need to stop by school and visit her and have some lunch or something to catch up :).

As I was saying before, I spent the next day, Tuesday, making the batter for Snickerdoodles, picking up the boys and making cookies all in between everything else. I made Snickerdoodles of course, and some cookies called Butter Spritz Cookies I found in a stack of recipes Mom’d given me last year. NEVER AGAIN will I make those pieces of crap. I followed the directions step-by-step and they didn’t taste at all the way the description said they would. Dumb things. Didn’t help that the cookie press I’d borrowed from Mary (which she’d never used before herself) wasn’t working. I had to use cookie cutters. Even if the cookie press did work, I doubt they would have tasted any better >_<. Mary made Pan De Polvo and Pineapple bars and told me to use some of those, too. Lifesaver! It was 9:30 by the time I finished with the last cookie sheet and was about to start on chocolate chip cookies but took Mary's advice and just used the four sweets we already had. I had a hell of a time with the plastic wrap I was putting around the baskets but they turned out really nice. The kids each took the baskets that were for their teachers on their lap yesterday morning. Eenan handed his to Mrs. R., who said she loves Snickerdoodles, especially those that are homemade :). Jaylen carried a basket in each hand and gave them to Mrs. T. and Mrs. S., who hugged him and said he was a "handsome boy". I came home and quickly made Mario some breakfast. I scarfed down my food since my doctor's appointment was at 9. There's never any point to going early anyway, since they don't see you for at least an hour and a half after your appointment. Yesterday was no different. They called me in at 10:30 and took my vitals. I didn't gain any weight in the past 3 weeks. In fact, I lost 5 oz., which is surprising considering how much I eat. Laura, my nurse, said everything went straight to my belly because it's definitely bigger than last time. I told her about my constant aching feet and how they've been swelling at night lately. My urinalysis was perfect and so was my sugar, after they pricked my finger to check my glucose since I had glucose in my pee once again (Mario warns me not to put so much sugar in my coffee!). They took me into the Sono room and the doctor came in about 10 minutes later. He checked my feet and said I looked fine and my blood pressure was fine, too, so the swelling might be because I'm on my feet a lot and my belly growing isn't helping. So, I just gotta keep my feet elevated sometimes. He gave me an ultrasound to check the baby's measurements and he said she's weighing about 4 lbs. 6 oz. :). I saw her legs, big belly, her huge head (which is nicely wedged in my pelvis which is why I've been feeling those annoying I-desperately-need-to-pee pains lately), and her little privates, which still show she's a girl :). The only thing that I found a bit strange was he said I was 32 weeks, which is NOT TRUE! I'm 34 weeks and some days. He told the nurse to schedule my next appointment for 35 weeks, which according to him is January 10th! I'm supposed to be 35 weeks next Tuesday, so I don't know what the deal is. All I know is when I go back on the 10th, it starts the beginning of my pelvic exams and some swab that tests for some bacteria or something that causes premature labor. How lovely. Since the doctor moved my due date even further, I'm now supposedly due Feb. 8th. *bangs head* I picked Jaylen up at noon, and he was happily lugging a huge red truck he got in the gift exchange around and his backpack was full of goodies and glitter from art projects he was bringing home. We came home and chilled out till it was time to pick up Eenan, who had a huge gift bag and even more glittery projects with him. He made Mario this adorable basket, full of copper glitter and foam stickers. He was so proud of his basket. When he got home he quickly took all of Mario's keys off the key rings on the wall and put them in the basket :P. John and I left the kids with Mom and then headed for McAllen to drop off the bag of clothes, toys and a brand-new Scooby blanket for the Garcia family. I stop by Mario's work first, just to chat and as I'm leaving one of his co-workers tells me to go the other way, since something's going on at the Chase Bank Tower. I go the way he instructed me to and sure enough, when passing the bank we see a whole bunch of people standing outside the bank, looking up. There's cops and firemen everywhere. We try our hardest to find the building, but with all the one-way streets over there it was kind of difficult. I call the number in the newspaper and the lady says they're located right behind Chase Bank, but they're being evacuated so she was on her way home. I ask what happened and she said there was a bomb threat and everyone was told to leave. She told me I could drop them off today. Just my luck. I want to do something nice and it's the day the whole damn place is evacuated! I had Mario take the bag with him today to drop it off for me, since I didn't want to drive all the way over there for nothing again. I hope he got it to them okay. Mom's behind me, crocheting a blanket for Alaethia. She'd been wanting to start crocheting again, but after not crocheting for almost 30 years she'd forgotten how. She didn't stop trying till she "got it" again yesterday and now she's about a fourth of the way through with the blanket. It's all cute and pastel-ly :). I'm so glad she's got a hobby again; she's thrilled about it. Now she can teach me how! I've always wanted to learn but my brain turns to mush when I try to learn from tutorials online. It's taken me half the day, literally, to type this out while doing everything else I need to do. I have to stop slacking and start cleaning this place up since Jorge, Mario's godfather, will arrive here from California sometime tomorrow and I don't want him seeing this mess. Tomorrow's also the day that I'm PRAYING we finish with our Christmas shopping. I do not want to be in town on the 23rd and 24th--it's way too dangerous. I still need gift ideas for some people, too. Which reminds me: I need to e-mail Noelia to send me a copy of her List. The hard one's going to be Mario's dad. We still owe him a birthday present from the beginning of December! We can never find his sizes or the stuff he wants :(. Okay, that's it. I'm going to start from the kitchen and work my way to the bathroom and living room. THEN I'll tackle the bedrooms.

The Least We Could Do

After having breakfast I picked up the newspaper from this past Sunday that Mario abandoned on the floor out of all places. A story on the front page called “Just One Wish” caught my eye.

I figured I’d read the article and then take a nap. I was so sleepy this morning I actually turned off the alarm and went right back to sleep, leaving the boys and I with only 40 minutes to get ready instead of the usual hour and 15. After reading this article though, there’s no way I can sleep. I’ll just lay there thinking about what we can possibly do for this family.

The Garcia family — Martina, 42; Juvencio, 41; Juvencio Jr., 16; Andres, 13; and Marcos, 1 1/2 years old — live in a church bus that was converted into a home near FM 1925 in Edcouch.

Martina has liver cancer, which spread from her colon, and undergoes chemotherapy that leaves her sick and feeling weak. (Source/full story: Themontior.com)

This story hit me like a ton of bricks. I bawled so hard my head began to hurt. Shame on me for silently complaining about not having new window treatments, or new slippers, or a new bolster pillow when there’s people out there who are sick and actually need clothes and food. For the second time in less than a month I feel humbled and just lucky to have the life that I do, no matter how “bad” it may seem sometimes.

They live off of Ramen noodles and beans almost every night. Martina couldn’t even enjoy the first, most special months of her new baby’s life because when he turned 6 months old, she was diagnosed with colon cancer that had spread to her liver. Her husband, Juvencio, doesn’t have much work because he looks after the children when Martina’s feeling too ill after her chemo treatments. The floods that invaded their part of the valley during summer ruined some of the few things they owned, including an adjacent building Juvencio built 5 years ago.

The two eldest boys, the 16- and 13-year-olds, were shy during the interview and didn’t want to say much. I can’t even imagine what this is like for them.

I can relate to them, though. I don’t mention it much, and it’s going to take a lot to put this into writing, but when I was growing up we were dirt poor. We got by on my Gramma’s SSI check and welfare. At the end of most months, when funds were low after paying bills and buying food, we’d live off of bread and baloney sandwiches and city water. We spent days at a time sometimes without water and/or electricity since my dad would conveniently disappear when he was supposed to send money for the bills. My mom couldn’t work because she didn’t have an education and the GED classes she would have liked to attend weren’t offered in our area. Besides, even if they did have classes available, we had no form of transportation and Mom never learned how to drive. But still, even through all that, John and I remember having a mostly-happy childhood. Once we were in middle and high school though, it became a little embarrassing to tell our friends where we lived and even worse when they would go over and they found out we didn’t have indoor plumbing. We didn’t live in a shack by any means, but it was a small, 50-year-old house at the time that needed many repairs we didn’t have money for. That’s where I can relate to the Garcia boys. I know how tough it is being a teenager to begin with, but to have to deal with everything that’s been put on their plate makes their lives even tougher.

The fact that this may be the Garcias’ last Christmas together is just devastating. Although we may not be able to do a lot for them, I’d at least like to donate clothes and toys for the kids. Mario and I were just talking about how much stuff we have in the storage unit that we need to get rid of in a garage sale, but I’d feel so much better giving whatever I can to this family. My boys have plenty of toddler toys they don’t use and toddler clothes they grew out of that can be given to little 1 1/2 year-old Marcos. Both teenage boys wear Medium, and Mario bagged up tons of Medium sized shirts. And although it may not be much that we can give, I’d like to donate money, too.

If you live in the McAllen area or anywhere in the Rio Grande Valley and would like to donate, Themonitor.com states that donations are being accepted from now until December 21st at the building on the corner of 12th Street and Chicago Avenue, just west of the Chase Motor Bank buidling at 200 S. 10th Street in McAllen. You can call (956) 279-9047 or (956)-279-9048 with questions or to make monetary donations. It says that all donations are accepted, including, but not limited to: gently used clothing and toys, food, furniture and money.

I Can Hear Your Teeth Chattering

It’s quite nippley out. It’s not even that drizzley outside and it feels frigid out there. I had to cave in and put on some sweatpants. I never wear sweatpants while I’m pregnant because I get hot really easily, but I was freezing this morning. And since the washer/dryer are outside and I had to get Mario’s clothes out to iron them before he got ready for work, I got cold and not even standing in front of the spaceheater helped. I’m praying I don’t get sick.

It’s been cold almost every day since the last week of November. I need to backtrack and read my entries from November-December 2004 so I can check if the weather’s the same as it was at that time, because that year it snowed. In South Texas. On Christmas Eve out of all days. That would be so awesome and magical if it happened again this year. I’d be really surprised if we don’t at least get sleet or something. It’s so COLD!

Jaylen and Eenan are doing much better. Eenan slept over at my mom-in-law’s last night and showed up a while ago wrapped only in one of Mary’s sweaters–he was naked other than his underwear. Darn kid. He started hacking while he thawed off in front of the heater. I started putting clothes on him and tell him, “Ahhh! Are you coughing again?!” He clears his throat, waits a minute to supress a cough, and says, “Nope.” Mmmhmm.

I dropped the kiddos off at school yesterday and came home, had breakfast and slid back into bed next to Mario, who makes me insanely jealous since he gets to sleep super late without interruption. It was the best 2 hour nap I’ve taken in a long time. I think it’s the cold; it just knocks you out and being wrapped in a thick, soft comforter next to a very warm husband makes it all the better.

We picked Jaylen up and John, Jaylen, Mario and I packed ourselves in the truck and went to pick up his paycheck. We had just about every bill to pay this paycheck, so we set aside all the Bill Money and deposited a bit more “just in case”. We won’t get to buy any presents this time (although I’m going to town after John gets out of work to visit Gramma and get Mario a pocketknife he wanted) but I’m just glad we paid all the bills plenty of days before we had to. I still have to go grocery shopping though. I loathe grocery shopping, especially when I have both kiddos with me. It never fails that one of them throws himself on the floor and that just so happens to be the exact moment that the whole store’s quiet and everyone turns to stare. *Hiss*.

We came back to pick Eenan and Brandon up from school. We went on a little hunt for Eenan’s jacket again, since he forgot it in his cubby and his teacher had locked the door. While I’m waiting for him I see a little boy who looks *just* like Eenan running in a sweater and jeans, hair flying everywhere and his backpack half-hanging off his back. He was searching for a janitor to open the door to his classroom. I got off the car and followed him and we walked to his classroom where his teacher just so happened to be standing with a group of ladies. THANK GOD he got ahold of her since this weekend’s proven to be really cold.

We went back to town, this time with Noelia in tow, and dropped her off at her mom’s office. Then we paid more bills and went to Target, where Mario got his gift-exchange gift for work and John got his gift-exchange present for Matthew. I forget what else we did exactly but we picked up some pizzas from Little Cesar’s (sp?). Yay! No cooking for me.

We ate at home, then I went through our DVD rack and dusted them all off. I really need to update our DVD list since I think we’re missing some and that sucks. Doesn’t help that we have them out in the open where anyone can just come “borrow” some when we’re not here (’cause everybody and their mama has a key to our apartment).

I washed the unsightly pile of dishes afterwards and after Mary got here with the cake mixes and icings I asked her to pick up for me I started making a chocolate cake. For Mario and his buddies at work. He kindly volunteered me to do so after he took some leftover Funfetti cake to work and all the guys ate it within 5 seconds. Mario didn’t even get to have a piece. Most of the guys wanted chocolate, so I made that one and I’ll make him the Funfetti one just for him here at home. I also had to get strawberry icing since John’s still holding me to my promise of making him a birthday cake that I never got to make him (I was working at the insurance place at the time). I guess I’ll do that before he gets home from work.

I hope there isn’t all kinds of traffic. I only have to go to Gramma’s nursing home, Kmart, Wal-Mart and Target and they’re all pretty close together so I don’t have to go into the hellhole that is McAllen during the holidays.

Speaking of McAllen, it’s kind of sad that the city I grew up in and was raised in is the #1 poverty-stricken suburban city in America. Wow.

According to the Weather Channel, it’s 47° now. I wish I could just go shopping in my sweatpants :(.